whoever said being a mom is easy was drunk

I love my kids, but working, cooking, cleaning and dealing with kids is hard. Dale helps a lot. I mean a lot. But when I come home I cook and deal with whatever issues dale and mikayla have. Mikayla is so huge on attitude right now it is driving me crazy. I have a whiteboard where I keep a list of chores and not to does plus positive things and she is trying to earn something special at the end of the week. But we can't manage to go a full week or full day without her trying to boss one of us around or tell us off. This morning I was getting ready for work and I went into her room to see if she awake and getting ready for school. She was and had her sister out of the crib walking around. I was complimenting her on being dressed, awake and making her bed and taking care of her sister while I get ready and she starts to yell at me and tells me to take my kid. I don't like to fight and i hate to be crabby in the morning. I don't like to start the day like that. I explained to her that she didn't have to take her sister out of the crib and that I would take her into my room but not to talk to me like that. I am not sure if she actually listens to what I say or just doesn't care to pay attention to it. I also helped her clean her pet rabbit's litter box this morning and found soggy carrots that were bad and a carrot juice mess in the mini fridge we have downstairs. i really can't stand when someone can't clean up after them selves. It is harder for me to understand when I clean at home and then I clean at work. I don't think Mikayla knows how much I do. She also gets mad when I get home, I start dinner and she wants attention, I get that, but i have to do dinner, change my clothes, bathe emie after dinner. And sometime in between would like to relax for a bit which doesn't happen for long and then it is bedtime. Like i said i love my kids, i really do, its just hard working and being a mom.