Monday, September 12, 2011

Doing charitable things can be good for the soul

My husband has recently called me the free-cycle queen. I love to check my email and see what others are offering and what thing I can get for the kids. For those of you who don't know what free-cycle is it is a website where you can recycle the things you were already getting rid of and give it to people who need or want those items. There are towns in every state that have one. I don't always take things, I do offer as well. I offered 18 items yesterday and all day today people have been picking them up. This way I don't have to throw away things I don't want. I think whoever came up with this site was a genius! But I have encountered that some people can be a little greedy and think that because they have problems and you are giving things away that you should give away everything you have to them because there in need. I had multiple email conversations with a woman who has two children 5 and 10 months. She is on wic, food stamps and unemployed. She was wondering why I wouldn't with all of my youngest clothes and toys. I told her the things she wasn't using I was keeping in case the next child we have is a girl. I understand her predicament because I was a single mom for years. I was on wic, unemployment and food stamps. But I would never act as if it was someoneelses problem or fault that i was in that predicament. I did what I had to do for my kids and myself. That is what you have to do. I am not saying that you shouldn't get help- if you can get it, you should get it. I just think you shouldn't expect anyone to help you. There are churches, mom organization's that help women in trouble with food or clothing. There are also donation places like Amway. You can get help. I am helping her out with the things I can give. I just feel a little hurt and used when someone is yelling at me when I am helping them. I didn't do this to you but I will help you. So please be nice to me. That's all I ask. I believe we need a little more generosity and kindness in this world. On another note Miss Evil Ewalks around shaking her head and saying no a lot. I have to love almost two year olds. I also am loving the last day of summer but still feel like ick with my allergies/sinus/cold thing I have going on.